Comments on: The Music Man-Date: Rules of Engagement http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/ Indie Music Blog, Live Sessions, and Daily MP3 Downloads. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 09:20:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Paul http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-326066 Paul Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:29:57 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-326066 What if both guys prefer fruity feminine drinks over beer? What if both guys prefer fruity feminine drinks over beer?

]]> By: 1449320 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-326013 1449320 Tue, 17 Jan 2012 10:10:31 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-326013 its not so much straight males that are terrified of being perceived as gay...i would say its more of a sense of personal disappointment when you realize you've been behaving in a manner that is unfortunately best described as gay IMO but does not actually have much to do with homosexuality. If you and your buddy get carried away at a taylor swift show and end up gazing into eachothers eyes while you give eachother handies over brightly colored and sweetly flavored, lewdly named mixed drinks that you got for free from that totally cool bro with the deep v-neck and the glittery cheekbones...well that is almost irrefutably gay in the true sense of the word. And that would be FINE, but right now we're talking about the phenomenon of gay meaning slightly over comfortable and a bit too openly in awe of eachother. Gay also basically means stupid. sorry, homosexuals. I didn't make it up, and it works too well to stop now. If you knew how cool i was, you would allow me to use it any way i desire. I mean no harm. What you guys do with your dicks is of absolutely no concern to me, as long as it doesn't concern me. Do be safe tho, and don't forget to stretch, and drink plenty of water. No, this sense of gay as pertains to two hetero males, is more the kind of thing that our girlfriends can make fun of us about, and that we can use to accuse eachother of trumped up charges (sensitivity, compassion, generosity, liberal political views, a flair for decoration or dressing ect..) at the end of a night that led us to enjoy the platonic company of a friend just a little too eagerly. Unlike actual gayness, its a shameful and discomforting thing, and we certainly wouldn't some errant physical contact and feelings of warmth and camaraderie getting in the way of our love for eachother. A love forged all too manfully, in a furnace of painful handshakes, randomly inflicted pain, and clear and well defined physical and emotional boundaries based on distance, indifference, and competitive intimidation bordering on malicious harassment for purposes of self assurance and personal scorekeeping. Clearly, there is little there that can be traced directly back to confirmed homosexuals or their way/habits. Any similarities between the gay in question, and the gay in san francisco is purely coincidental. It may also be slightly intentional in a decidedly humorous fashion. Who are we to say? its not so much straight males that are terrified of being perceived as gay…i would say its more of a sense of personal disappointment when you realize you’ve been behaving in a manner that is unfortunately best described as gay IMO but does not actually have much to do with homosexuality. If you and your buddy get carried away at a taylor swift show and end up gazing into eachothers eyes while you give eachother handies over brightly colored and sweetly flavored, lewdly named mixed drinks that you got for free from that totally cool bro with the deep v-neck and the glittery cheekbones…well that is almost irrefutably gay in the true sense of the word. And that would be FINE, but right now we’re talking about the phenomenon of gay meaning slightly over comfortable and a bit too openly in awe of eachother. Gay also basically means stupid. sorry, homosexuals. I didn’t make it up, and it works too well to stop now. If you knew how cool i was, you would allow me to use it any way i desire. I mean no harm. What you guys do with your dicks is of absolutely no concern to me, as long as it doesn’t concern me. Do be safe tho, and don’t forget to stretch, and drink plenty of water.

No, this sense of gay as pertains to two hetero males, is more the kind of thing that our girlfriends can make fun of us about, and that we can use to accuse eachother of trumped up charges (sensitivity, compassion, generosity, liberal political views, a flair for decoration or dressing ect..) at the end of a night that led us to enjoy the platonic company of a friend just a little too eagerly. Unlike actual gayness, its a shameful and discomforting thing, and we certainly wouldn’t some errant physical contact and feelings of warmth and camaraderie getting in the way of our love for eachother. A love forged all too manfully, in a furnace of painful handshakes, randomly inflicted pain, and clear and well defined physical and emotional boundaries based on distance, indifference, and competitive intimidation bordering on malicious harassment for purposes of self assurance and personal scorekeeping. Clearly, there is little there that can be traced directly back to confirmed homosexuals or their way/habits. Any similarities between the gay in question, and the gay in san francisco is purely coincidental. It may also be slightly intentional in a decidedly humorous fashion. Who are we to say?

]]> By: oz http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-97 oz Wed, 06 Dec 2006 18:12:20 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-97 After the man-date, you should cleanse yourselves by smoking cigars at a strip club. After the man-date, you should cleanse yourselves by smoking cigars at a strip club.

]]> By: Brother http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-96 Brother Wed, 06 Dec 2006 17:52:40 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-96 A couple rules to add, which we followed at the MMJ show: - You can't wear an "outfit" or worry about your dress at all on the man-date. Old jeans and a t-shirt are most appropriate. - Pre-show meals should be limited to bar food or something in that genre. Just my personal preference on these rules, no offense to others who prefer a more intimate man-date. A couple rules to add, which we followed at the MMJ show:
- You can’t wear an “outfit” or worry about your dress at all on the man-date. Old jeans and a t-shirt are most appropriate.
- Pre-show meals should be limited to bar food or something in that genre.
Just my personal preference on these rules, no offense to others who prefer a more intimate man-date.

]]> By: Benaiah http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-93 Benaiah Wed, 06 Dec 2006 02:29:37 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-93 This article reminds me of the time my boss made fun of me because I will try a male friend's entre at a nice dinner. I have been on innumerable "man dates" where we drank mixed drinks, ate off each other's plates, yelled things in each others ears, been in public with more than 40000 people (Rolling Stones show) ect, incredibly at the end of the night I didn't even get a hug and an awkward kiss on the hair as I went in for it... Nope, I stayed straight and so did my buddy. I realize that this post is in jest, but I hate the idea that being a straight male entails being terrified of being perceived as or acting gay. This article reminds me of the time my boss made fun of me because I will try a male friend’s entre at a nice dinner. I have been on innumerable “man dates” where we drank mixed drinks, ate off each other’s plates, yelled things in each others ears, been in public with more than 40000 people (Rolling Stones show) ect, incredibly at the end of the night I didn’t even get a hug and an awkward kiss on the hair as I went in for it… Nope, I stayed straight and so did my buddy. I realize that this post is in jest, but I hate the idea that being a straight male entails being terrified of being perceived as or acting gay.

]]> By: Woody http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-89 Woody Tue, 05 Dec 2006 21:29:57 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-89 I always like when my man-date buys me a t-shirt so I can remember the evening forever. I always like when my man-date buys me a t-shirt so I can remember the evening forever.

]]> By: MJM http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-88 MJM Tue, 05 Dec 2006 20:38:19 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-88 Country fans break all the rules. They sing along, hug, and take their shirts off. Hence, the gayness of country music. Country fans break all the rules. They sing along, hug, and take their shirts off. Hence, the gayness of country music.

]]> By: oz http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/comment-page-1/#comment-87 oz Tue, 05 Dec 2006 20:16:54 +0000 http://www.hearya.com/2006/12/05/the-music-man-date/#comment-87 If it's an outdoor concert, you can't take your shirts off. If it’s an outdoor concert, you can’t take your shirts off.

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